Confidence, self-esteem and self-worth doesn’t come naturally to all of us. We all have an idea in our heads about what we should do, who we should be and perceptions on how other’s view us. If we believe we don’t live up to all these expectations, we are bound to unhappiness. Where do these ideas come from? Why do they feel so overpowering? How do we shift into becoming more self-assured?

The inner critic aka the ego aka the supreme judge is fueled by the solar plexus chakra. Its nature is fiery, outward and loud. We don’t turn away from a character like that, we work with it. The path to developing our self-worth starts with tolerance, eventually acceptance.

The inner critic is often hostile and I’m here to share that is with a purpose. Imagine this character trapped in the dark for years, alone and starving. When it finally realizes it has power, it directs its fury towards its “captor” which is you.  These parts of you feel neglected and are in dire need of your love and attention. When you begin to acknowledge them in this way, you realize that it does not speak out of truth, but more temporary frustration. To improve our self-worth, we must utilize skills of listening, patience and compassion towards our inner experience.