NEW YEAR, REAL YOU

New Year – new you...nahhhhh!!  I say REAL YOU!  

Let’s get clear.  You don’t need a more sparkly version of YOU, what you do need is the REAL YOU to show up.  It mean’s owning what you want, your desires, visions, fears and loves.  It’s about knowing what you want and going for it.  And yes, you have to own all the excuses too!

So…how do you want your life to look and feel day to day?  Do you feel deserving of the good that is unfolding? Can you change what seems to be not going so well? Can you let go of what you may not be able to change?

It’s up to you to design your life the way it feels right for you.  Pay close attention if you suspect someone else dictating what they feel you need. Look out for the ways you may not be aligned with who you really are.  Observe your reactions to circumstances you don't agree with. They are all clues to what's happening inside. 

My wish for you in 2018 is to give yourself permission to shine more brilliantly than ever before!  

ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

We hear a lot of advice on adopting an "attitude of gratitude" when we are on the path to self-mastery. And guess what…the advice is right –  the fact that you can breathe, move your body, have a comfortable bed to rest, eat food every single day, drink clean water, get out in nature, find beauty where ever you go, makes life truly a blessing. Gratitude is all about the art of self-love and incorporating positive habits of thought.

As with anything, it takes time to develop. Remember that a belief is a string of thoughts and you can change one thought at a time!  Start your day on a positive note. Say to yourself: “I intend to feel fantastic today!”. Affirmations are powerful. The best time to affirm is in the morning when you are fresh and without any resistance. As the day goes by, your old habits of thoughts will try taking over and you can change that around quickly with your positive affirmation. The next day it will get easier, the day after even better…and so on, you will build up to a belief than an attitude.

Not sure what to be grateful about?  Challenge yourself, try new things, hang out with some new people – sign up for a dance class, yoga, a cooking lesson, etc. Whatever you do, tap into your passion and give yourself and life kudos for being AWESOME!!

TURN NEGATIVE INTO POWER

It’s a great reminder that most of the negative things you tell yourself never really come true. They are not even a reflection of what is going in the present time. Battling those self-defeating thoughts is both draining and stressful. Redirect your focus to becoming more AWARE to transform yourself in the observer of your thoughts. Watch them come to the surface, notice their reaction to something that has happened externally, become curious about the thread of the thoughts that become the “story”.

Of course, life doesn’t always go as planned and sometimes feels downright out of control, which leads into the tailspin of “what-ifs” and “worse case scenarios”. If you are not dealing with a current major challenge like a break-up, job loss, death of a loved one, health problem or any other life changing circumstance, more than likely those negative thoughts are just useless brain chatter.

I am asked all the time, how do I change my thoughts? The technique is simple, what is challenging is the practice. Here's the magic formula...
1) Become aware, 2) Don’t react, 3) Choose positive thoughts instead 4) Repeat

Turn that negative spiral into POWER. Practice and keep practicing, until your default way of thinking is positive. There's no mystery to it, just takes practice. 

ARE YOUR GROWING?

The first sign to know that you are growing spiritually is when you start acting more compassionate towards yourself and other. It is a flow of unconditional love and its only intention or purpose is to seek truth. The more you acknowledge it, the more you move towards it.

You may have your self-care practices like meditation, crystal healing, journaling, affirmations and such but the purposes of those techniques are to move towards self-realization. The sum of all of your experiences are not truly who you are. Those temporary thoughts and emotions are not who you are either. Your true self is a lover of all and your purpose is to express love in all you do. That is the energy of which you were created from. That is the direction your life plan is always moving you towards. Don't allow anything distracting you from love fool you. 

Spirituality is not listening to the wise teacher, having deep conversations, buying beautiful items or prayer. It is not something that you find outside somewhere. It is an internal way of being. It’s the commitment to being honest to yourself...always. You may receive inspiration from the outside but those brilliant ideas just happen to match what you already know inside.  

Ask and listen. Trust yourself. Is what you are doing bringing you closer to love?

WHAT DOES HAPPINESS EVEN MEAN?

The older I get, the more that I realize that the little every day things is what leads to a happier life. One single step at a time towards the choices that express our truth debunks the myth of change being hard work. If we think of happiness as this "larger than life", super-charged, constant emotional state of bliss that is created by the presence of other things and people, than yes that is a ton of pressure. No wonder we all fail our way to change. 

I found that part of the problem is the term itself, happiness. Its kind of vague. We set off on our search for it but we don't understand what it is or how to achieve it. We tend to want to eliminate all of the negative aspects of our lives, identify our one true passion, live our life’s purpose and set out to achieve our life’s dreams…all before lunch time. Whew  All the while wondering why it isn't working.

Joy, satisfaction, love, curiosity are some of the positive emotions that lead us to feeling happy. The more we experience these positive emotions, the happier we’ll be. Easy so far, right? But how do we cultivate positive emotions? That’s easy too, if you’re willing to let it be. When we engage in activities or spend time with people (or animals) that we like, we tend to feel positive emotions. Simply put, the more time you spend engaged in activities that induce positive emotion, the more positive emotion you will feel and the more likely you will be to achieve an overall sense of happiness.

Have lunch with a friend, take a walk in the park, play with a dog, see a funny movie. Every time you engage in an activity that peaks your interest, makes you smile or gets your endorphins flowing, it’s like money in the bank. A little laugh here, a loving hug there and before you know it you’ve become the happy person you’ve always wanted to be without hardly trying.

So how will you practice happiness today?

SELF RESPONSIBILITY EQUALS POSITIVITY

Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the awareness to deal with them.

When less than ideal things happen to you, learning to accept and take self-responsibility allows you to become aware of what you need to do rather than 'hoping' it all goes away.

When we learn to take responsibility for everything that happens to us, we open up our positive energy to create a plan and resolve the problem/issue/situation. The imperfections of our day-to-day lives are what help us to learn, heal and grow into who we truly are.

I was the girl who lived life unhappily. Looking back, my life was lived out of habit rather than awareness and intent. I would ‘numb’ myself to avoid pain and fear. Life got incredibly uncomfortable until I learned about self-awareness and responsibility.

It was a long and exhausting path for me but it doesn’t have to be that way for you. 

DISCOVERING YOUR SPIRITUALITY

Discovering our own spirituality is a private and unique path. Individually we will be drawn to different entry ways of our awakening to a greater experience of ourselves. We may have been taught beliefs or philosophies as children, yet the Universe calls us to find or deepen our own way of understanding universal love, truth and conduct. There are those who are raised without any spiritual principles yet still yearn to uncover their own expression of spiritual identity. Regardless of age or background, most of us in youth or adulthood, are likely to recognize this need for knowledge, growth and connection.

People often ask, “Where do I begin?”. We are all wired with an inner guidance system often referred to as intuition. When we take the moment to ask ourselves questions internally, we activate this inner guidance to answer back. A pathway begins to open that we can immediately recognize by its warm and friendly invitation to go deeper within. Curiosity sparks our minds and hearts to seek out positivity outside of ourselves in many forms. It may start with desiring pictures, objects or books regarding nature, deities and/or angels. Wanting to explore practices like yoga, meditation and various forms of natural healing. Listening to music that invokes positive feelings. Taking classes that teach new philosophies and approaches. Exploring religion. Wanting to be more playful, artistic and contemplative. Longing for like-minded individuals and community.

What we are attracted to outside of us, is meant to leads us to back to experience what is inside of us. No matter the form, what we truly seek is the experience of our authentic self exactly as we were intended – loving, peaceful and creative. The Universe speaks to us all through infinite channels guiding us back to feeling inspired, awakened, connected, conscious, aware and alive. It may be a route completely different than anything described before or what someone else has experienced on their track. Wherever your spiritual path leads you, it is perfect and meant entirely for you.

THE NEW NORM

As busy humans in the modern world, we tend to overlook that our day-to-day decisions affect something greater than ourselves. We tend have a short view of how we interact while working, running errands, meeting with loved ones. Most times, we feel like we just have to get through them. Truth is, there is a long term consequence that sums the quality of our experiences.

Things not as good as they "should or can" be? Does it feel too hard to change it?

See, it takes the individual pieces to make up the whole. What we choose to say, listen to, believe in, shapes our reality. More importantly, how we personally show up makes all the difference.

Choosing positivity, peace, beauty, responsibility, joy and honesty through words and actions not only lifts you but those around you. People will notice enthusiasm. People will smile back as you let your radiance reach them. Your laughter will be contagious. Your peacefulness will teach and inspire. The consequence will provide a new norm, a fresh perspective that supports your highest good and the good of others.

Understanding the intention behind your decisions not only affects your immediate surroundings but also weaves every thread of society and continues on creating the fabric of the world.

When you are aware of your own power and ability to influence, you create change in this world. It's simple.