personal growth

WHAT DOES HAPPINESS EVEN MEAN?

The older I get, the more that I realize that the little every day things is what leads to a happier life. One single step at a time towards the choices that express our truth debunks the myth of change being hard work. If we think of happiness as this "larger than life", super-charged, constant emotional state of bliss that is created by the presence of other things and people, than yes that is a ton of pressure. No wonder we all fail our way to change. 

I found that part of the problem is the term itself, happiness. Its kind of vague. We set off on our search for it but we don't understand what it is or how to achieve it. We tend to want to eliminate all of the negative aspects of our lives, identify our one true passion, live our life’s purpose and set out to achieve our life’s dreams…all before lunch time. Whew  All the while wondering why it isn't working.

Joy, satisfaction, love, curiosity are some of the positive emotions that lead us to feeling happy. The more we experience these positive emotions, the happier we’ll be. Easy so far, right? But how do we cultivate positive emotions? That’s easy too, if you’re willing to let it be. When we engage in activities or spend time with people (or animals) that we like, we tend to feel positive emotions. Simply put, the more time you spend engaged in activities that induce positive emotion, the more positive emotion you will feel and the more likely you will be to achieve an overall sense of happiness.

Have lunch with a friend, take a walk in the park, play with a dog, see a funny movie. Every time you engage in an activity that peaks your interest, makes you smile or gets your endorphins flowing, it’s like money in the bank. A little laugh here, a loving hug there and before you know it you’ve become the happy person you’ve always wanted to be without hardly trying.

So how will you practice happiness today?

SELF RESPONSIBILITY EQUALS POSITIVITY

Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the awareness to deal with them.

When less than ideal things happen to you, learning to accept and take self-responsibility allows you to become aware of what you need to do rather than 'hoping' it all goes away.

When we learn to take responsibility for everything that happens to us, we open up our positive energy to create a plan and resolve the problem/issue/situation. The imperfections of our day-to-day lives are what help us to learn, heal and grow into who we truly are.

I was the girl who lived life unhappily. Looking back, my life was lived out of habit rather than awareness and intent. I would ‘numb’ myself to avoid pain and fear. Life got incredibly uncomfortable until I learned about self-awareness and responsibility.

It was a long and exhausting path for me but it doesn’t have to be that way for you.